Recently I have been asked by a number of people what I think about Caitlyn Jenner. My response is "I don’t know" and I’m not being flip. She is a new character in the zeitgeist and I'll reserve judgment about her life choices as I am trying to be supportive of the T in the LGBT continuum. But there are other choices with which I have concern. Throughout this whole transition, I think people are missing something extremely important; Caitlyn may have felt like a woman for many years but I can assure you she did not feel like a ‘Caitlyn’. Women from her era (she was born in 1949) were typically named Linda, Mary, Patricia, Barbara or Susan. In some parts of the country they may have been named Eunice, Ethel, Agnes and even Thelma Lou, if you lived in Mayberry. What they wouldn’t have been named is Caitlyn.
The moniker with
which you are foisted upon the world has a lot to do with how the world
responds to you. There have been many
articles of late discussing those with more ‘American’ names receiving a
more positive response on job applications and resumes. It is sad, but it is true. It is also a wake-up call for those parents
who want to name their children something like McClavity, Apple or D’@ngel*que. At least Apple will have Speed of Sound money to fall back on if she can’t get a job working for her mother at Goop, if
this is in fact a real website and I haven’t mistaken one of The Onion’s
satirical essays as a news report.
There has been
much discussion of whether or not Caitlyn is brave and I agree being your
authentic self is brave if indeed who you are is not the average person’s cup
of tea. And you may disagree. But I don’t think anyone can argue it is
an extreme act of bravery for a 65 year-old woman, who is not Helen Mirren, to
appear on the cover of a national magazine in what can only be described as a
lycra onesie. And let’s not forget about
the hairstyle she chose. What’s brave is
selecting a “reality-show-opening-credits-montage” hairstyle for your cover
model debut. I can assure you the G in the LGBT acronym have been discussing this at length.
I suppose it is
appropriate as she will now star in a reality show which is a spin-off of
another reality show which is the spin-off of a sex tape which was (and let’s
be honest) a spin-off of the OJ Simpson murder trial, and possibly Moesha,
being that Ray J is Brandy’s brother.
And we shouldn’t be surprised America has rallied around someone
who is desperately clinging to the periphery of our attention span, which
is exuberantly ill-informed, inconsistently forgiving and sticky with a mixture
of melted Popsicle and nacho cheese.
Is it really brave
to face the world from a position of wealth and material comfort? I wonder how brave Caitlyn would have been if
she had to go to work at Carl’s Jr., or serve as the nursing supervisor at an
assisted living facility or work in a bank? Is it brave when you are lauded for being you
and awarded financially for your transition? Most trans people, from what I
understand, just want to be themselves and blend into the vibrant fabric of
this country. It doesn’t mean that
we can’t applaud her for helping the national conversation about a topic both uncomfortable and timely.
I am not someone
who is interested in knowing the ins-and-outs of Caitlyn’s life and I will
certainly not watch her new show. I will
also not remember her name is Caitlyn because she does not look like a Caitlyn. Maybe I would remember it if she changed her name to Marilyn or Olivia
or Lauren or even Priscilla.
And that’s all I’m
saying for now.
This may upset some people, but "Caitlyn" is too young (not too mention the "effected" spelling) for her aesthetic. She should have chosen from the era from which she was born. People don't realize, you don't have the right to just pluck your name from modernity. The era chooses your name, not vice-versa.
ReplyDelete"I suppose that is appropriate as she will now star in a reality show that is a spin-off of another reality show which is the spin-off of a sex tape which was (and let’s be honest) a spin-off of the OJ Simpson murder trial, and possibly “Moesha”, being that Ray J is Brandy’s brother." HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDelete"... it is an extreme act of bravery for a 65 year-old woman, who is not Helen Mirren, to appear on the cover of a national magazine in what can only be described as a lycra onesie." My favorite laugh-out-loud line!!! Amen
ReplyDeleteBrave is the the young, black, trans woman living her life in NE Texas.
ReplyDeleteCaitlyn in Malibu, California....not so much.
Agreed.
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